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Male Performer Chat: models=friends = not so much
Wow, another one to break my heart today....when you think you have a special bond / friendship with a model....you give them all you got $$$ overtime. You ask for one small favour and they put a $ on it.
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I'm sorry to hear yet another story like that one you tell. feel like we are all lonely suckers sometimes. Wish we and the models could every one just have fun without games and lies. Or do we secret want this game. Rule 1 for me after my bad experience is never personal. Friendly yes but friends no. No details and reject if they try to offer personal story. is mostly fake story anyway.
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Sorry to hear, I know the feeling. Also hanging around after their orgasm (and yours) just to show them appreciation and make them feel more than like a toy doesn't even mean a lot to them. You should read this post:
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This is not a dating site, Bobino. Some of the models here are nice and honest, but mostly they are performers working their jobs, attempting to make a living off of money from viewers. If you think they are more honorable than a naked used car salesman, you are a fool and they can smell your testosterone through the screen.
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Don't let it get to you, .Bobino! Sometimes we all just need a break from the site to get our heads screwed back on correctly. Or find another boy toy here.
They come, they go. As do we. They owe us no commitment. We can also easily just delete them from our favorites and find another.
Like someone said above, it's not a dating site. If you look at it like a dating site, your credit card will soon be maxed out.
To put it another way, would you date a pole dancer who gropes and gets groped by everyone at a strip club? My gosh, these guys jerk off, cum and open up their holes for the whole world to see.
They all have a "story", many give false 2nd names to make you think you are closer to them because you "know" their "real" name. Of course, many of us give "privileged" information also. Ha, one guy was one screen name here, told me his name was Justin, and I found out it was a completely different and totally Slovak name that was not even close to Justin.
They have meetings and sales tactics that are discussed. They are taught the lines to recruit new members if they want to talk to the gray users, they learn from their studios on how to keep long term clients.
I even saw one article on the web on how to "break up" with a customer who has gotten too close emotionally and he starts to expect more for less, I honestly did.
It's all a business here, maybe you just need time to regroup. I feel for you. Quote
They come, they go. As do we. They owe us no commitment. We can also easily just delete them from our favorites and find another.
Like someone said above, it's not a dating site. If you look at it like a dating site, your credit card will soon be maxed out.
To put it another way, would you date a pole dancer who gropes and gets groped by everyone at a strip club? My gosh, these guys jerk off, cum and open up their holes for the whole world to see.
They all have a "story", many give false 2nd names to make you think you are closer to them because you "know" their "real" name. Of course, many of us give "privileged" information also. Ha, one guy was one screen name here, told me his name was Justin, and I found out it was a completely different and totally Slovak name that was not even close to Justin.
They have meetings and sales tactics that are discussed. They are taught the lines to recruit new members if they want to talk to the gray users, they learn from their studios on how to keep long term clients.
I even saw one article on the web on how to "break up" with a customer who has gotten too close emotionally and he starts to expect more for less, I honestly did.
It's all a business here, maybe you just need time to regroup. I feel for you. Quote
The worst thing a model has ever told me was that I was replaceable. This was after me being loyal to him for a little over a year. I felt crushed, embarrassed, and used by his words. But it did help change my attitude on how I try to conduct myself here.
Maybe I was just inexperienced back then, maybe I got too attached too soon, maybe he was having a bad day, maybe it was a combination of it all but regardless, he IS right.
The main priority for models here is to make money... PERIOD! When we don't have any to spend or stop, they'll shift focus towards the next user who does. And hey, I completely understand and respect it.
But as someone said on another forum post: "You are only their SIGNIFICANT OTHER while you are in a private, while the tips keep coming to them. They will make you feel like you are the center of their universe if they are good at what they do. Anyway, that is what we all want. But remember, this is a business relationship."
Just spend your credits to fulfill whatever sexual desires you have or to support your favorites when you can and keep the cycle moving. Don't take anything here seriously or get too attached to any model. I think that can be the biggest mistake we can make as users. Quote
Maybe I was just inexperienced back then, maybe I got too attached too soon, maybe he was having a bad day, maybe it was a combination of it all but regardless, he IS right.
The main priority for models here is to make money... PERIOD! When we don't have any to spend or stop, they'll shift focus towards the next user who does. And hey, I completely understand and respect it.
But as someone said on another forum post: "You are only their SIGNIFICANT OTHER while you are in a private, while the tips keep coming to them. They will make you feel like you are the center of their universe if they are good at what they do. Anyway, that is what we all want. But remember, this is a business relationship."
Just spend your credits to fulfill whatever sexual desires you have or to support your favorites when you can and keep the cycle moving. Don't take anything here seriously or get too attached to any model. I think that can be the biggest mistake we can make as users. Quote
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tristan_normand
7/13/20 @ 3:01pm
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Location: Paris
Posts: 194
@.Bobino. Where to start, where to start, where to start talking to you. I will have to shamefully admit that I once mega-tipped a model and did a lot of privates with him. I wanted to leave, he pulled out all the stops saying he was in love with me and gave me a fake social media account he really didn’t use so he could “keep in touch”. He told me he didn’t want his boss to know. I wanted to take a break to let my feelings for him go away. He then kept me on the hook after I went off the site and one day messaged me that he was going to get fired because of his low amount of credits. He said he needed help so I came back as he was getting his Ohmi show up to speed, then all of a sudden, he didn’t need me. Everyone wanted to buzz him. My messages were no longer prioritized. I was forgotten. We had words, and I saw his real personality. Not nice, an immature imp. Tips and credits are everything here. This guy also gave a false second name. I also saw his real name on social media. What a shock. He told me that “J” was his real name to the very last conversation. Even one of those big clients who had a screen name that I came to know because we competed for time called him by this same false name. Like a glutton for punishment, I went to him during one of his multiviewer privates, I was pretty much ignored but the big spender kept calling him by his supposed second name telling him how much he loved him. It was a sobering moment.
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it's the same as falling in love with a porn actor, what real feelings you can talk about when you find toys in an intimate place. Often you yourself neglect many models.
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What do you want from dating a model? Sex services or real feelings. Complicated.
I know of one member for half a year. at the first meeting, I told him about myself (which was true). I was worried that it will scare him. But he was a very good man. I have and he is really friendly relationship (I believe it). A few months later I told him also some information about myself, because I believe him. Now he has a small problem. But I in any case I give him time and we communicate every day. Not only the site and Twitter.
I'm really grateful to this man. And I worry for him as yourself. And I believe that he thinks the same way.
Thanks for your attention :D
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I know of one member for half a year. at the first meeting, I told him about myself (which was true). I was worried that it will scare him. But he was a very good man. I have and he is really friendly relationship (I believe it). A few months later I told him also some information about myself, because I believe him. Now he has a small problem. But I in any case I give him time and we communicate every day. Not only the site and Twitter.
I'm really grateful to this man. And I worry for him as yourself. And I believe that he thinks the same way.
Thanks for your attention :D
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This place is like everyone's favorite forbidden nightclub in the far reaches of the city. We have fun, we spend what we want. There are nooks an corners of the club we like to "frequent".
But we don't bring any of it back to our mundane Monday through Fridays.
And for God's sake, it is not a dating site. I mean...how many dates in the first 30 seconds of meeting them plop their dicks on your face and stick their ass on your nose.
Wait, don't answer that question! I don't know where some of you have been.
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But we don't bring any of it back to our mundane Monday through Fridays.
And for God's sake, it is not a dating site. I mean...how many dates in the first 30 seconds of meeting them plop their dicks on your face and stick their ass on your nose.
Wait, don't answer that question! I don't know where some of you have been.
These are not the guys (or girls) you take home to mother. Quote
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gofish
7/15/20 @ 2:47pm
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Location: IN YOUR DREAMS
Posts: 1,727
Yes this is not a dating site though get the feeling that some members wish it were. Not saying all performers on the site are bad, but if just flooding them with credit makes them take notice of you then that is the first CLUE. There are a fair amount of good performers on the site who in many way appreciate the fact that a member comes into the room to at best just talk. Shame on those MODELS who see members as mere banks to make withdraws from, but will say at some point it will back fire on them and leave them wondering why. 
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I never said this was a dating site....I am talking about friendships....I still have a very good and dear friend on here and one that was on the site sometime ago who isnt performing anymore. THey are both real friends and we keep in touch. I guess most of the models only care about the $ and the business. Some will ban you from their site for not tipping, others will beg you for tips as soon as you log into their room.
Anyway I'm done being taken advantage of. Quote
Anyway I'm done being taken advantage of. Quote
Created by:
gofish
7/15/20 @ 11:36pm
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Location: IN YOUR DREAMS
Posts: 1,727
I never said this was a dating site....I am talking about friendships....I still have a very good and dear friend on here and one that was on the site sometime ago who isnt performing anymore. THey are both real friends and we keep in touch. I guess most of the models only care about the $ and the business. Some will ban you from their site for not tipping, others will beg you for tips as soon as you log into their room.
Anyway I'm done being taken advantage of.
First Bobino awesome to hear that you found a friend on the site. It sounds like you are one lucky guy and wish you all the best in that friendship.
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Anyway I'm done being taken advantage of.
First Bobino awesome to hear that you found a friend on the site. It sounds like you are one lucky guy and wish you all the best in that friendship.
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